This month I’m hosting a blog series: “Navigating Grief As Life Moves Forward.” I am working to be more intentional with my blog to serve readers like you who are navigating the winding path of a grief journey.
This series was inspired by many conversations I have had with friends about the struggle to move forward after experiencing loss. There’s not really a finish line to the grief journey but it certainly changes over time.
One of the most powerful things I’ve learned about grief these last several years is that when we share our stories vulnerably in community, we are stronger.
There’s a Swedish proverb that says, “Shared joy is a double joy; Shared sorrow is half sorrow.”
This proverbs rings true in my life. I have been blessed by a community of friends who have shared in both my joy and sorrow.
The goal this month is to create a safe place to share our grief stories. I long to encourage you, to bless you, for you to say, “me too” deep in your spirit. I want to link arms with you and say, “You are not alone, my friend.”
I’ve invited several writer-friends to share their stories in this space during April. My friend Danielle will unfold her experience with anticipatory grief as her husband Kenny faced a cancer journey that last several years. My friend Sue will be sharing about navigating the death of a grandparent with her kids. My friend Sharon will give us a glimpse into her life dealing with pregnancy loss. I hope their diverse stories will be a reminder that while every journey is unique, there are a host of us who have walked the path of grief.
I think of my friend Janine. Her husband died in a cycling accident just a year before my husband Ericlee died of cancer. I remember standing at her Jim’s funeral reception and Janine squeezing my hands tight: “Cherish every moment,” she whispered. Ericlee and I wept with Janine. We had no idea what lie ahead for us.
Janine has walked ahead of me on the grief journey, modeling for me what it means to embrace life after loss and grieve well. She has also walked by my side, teaching me to trust in God to fill in all the holes and gaps. I’m grateful for her vulnerable sharing through the process. Janine and the other widows I know give me courage.
I hope this month you will read these stories and share your comments or pieces of your own story. You have permission to grieve and process here. I imagine us all as potted plants. We can sit in the sun and struggle to grow in our own little pots or we can be transplanted into a grand garden and nourish each other. We can offer up our stories and colors to flourish together.
Check out the articles in this series here:
Grieving Together – an article on grieving with children
Choosing Joy – a guest post about a spouse choosing joy even on a long cancer journey
When a Grandparent Dies – a guest post about how one mom is navigating her own grief and grief with her kids
When You are the Caregiver – a post about processing grief and guilt as the caregiver
Facing Triggers and Trauma – an article about steering through grief when triggers and trauma arise
Soaring Above the Turbulence – a reflection on learning to fly higher on the grief journey
Would you like a copy of my FREE resource for “Grieving with Kids“? I’m passionate about meeting people in their grief and sharing a message of hope. Let’s connect!
*Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash
Sheryl Root says
Dorian, I shared this with my friend, Carolyn, who is the founder of Modern Widows Club. Could we share this with the MWC community? They would love this!
Dorina Gilmore says
Thank you SO much for sharing with Carolyn! Is there a way I can connect with her personally? I would love to learn more about what she is doing with MWC!
Dorina, my above comment auto-corrected your name. ? Sorry about that.
Dorina Gilmore says
No worries, it happens ALL the time!
Amy Patton says
What an important series and journey to take people. I’ve traveled, as most of us, my own grief journey. The hardest was losing my twin boys. It’s been 22 years. It’s hard to believe. Joy does come, but it’s always after the mourning.
Dorina Gilmore says
Amy, I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine the pain of losing twins. Thank you for standing witness that joy does come after the mourning!