I remember that day so vividly. We were at a luncheon as part of the Justice Conference in Chicago. She was on a panel sharing about her experiences on a recent trip visiting women in crisis in the Middle East. The place cleared out pretty quickly after lunch as people rushed off to the next workshops. I spotted her near the stage with a few other panelists. Only a few other women were mulling about waiting to see Ann. This was a rare moment that the New York Times best-selling author was not being mobbed by faithful fans.
I knew I had to meet her. I had to tell her about how her words had changed my life.
I forced myself to walk awkwardly to the front of the room. My hands trembled as I waited: What could I say? How could I possibly squeeze my story of tragedy and triumph into a few quick minutes? How could I sufficiently tell her that her words had changed me and trained me for the most difficult season of my life?
She turned to me and looked straight into me with those piercing blue eyes full of deep compassion. She clasped my shaking hands in hers. The tears welled up in my eyes as I introduced myself and quickly spilled out my gratitude. I thanked her for teaching me the art of eucharisteo – giving thanks in all circumstances. I told her how her practice of counting gifts had prepared me for horror of walking my husband through cancer and navigating his death with my three young daughters. Tears of sympathy glistened in her eyes as somehow I managed to talk about the secondary losses – walking away from our heart work in Haiti and stumbling forward into a new life as a widow.
I apologized for taking too much of her time. She called me by name and shook her head no. She said, “I hear you, Dorina, and I’m going to remember you.”
In that moment, I realized Ann Voskamp was the real deal. Authentic. Vulnerable. Compassionate. Broken. She took time to enter into the brokenness with me. She wasn’t rushing me along. She wasn’t some celebrity with perfect makeup and a precision haircut signing books with an agenda. She listened. She cried with me. She poured herself out.
It was no surprise to me when I opened the pages of Ann’s new book, The Broken Way, that the book is about exactly what God has been asking me to do over the last two years: to find purpose in my pain.
Her words mentor me once again: “Not one thing in your life is more important than figuring out how to live in the face of unspoken pain.”
The theme of this book is identifying our brokenness and stepping into the brokenness of others as the path to a more abundant life.
I read each sentence slowly, really let the words sink in. This is not what you call a “quick read.” In fact, all of Ann’s writing is like that for me. I am forced to slow down, to drink in the words deliberately like a steaming cup of chai on a fall day, like reading a poem aloud and savoring every word. Sometimes I circle back and reread a line or two because I don’t want to miss a thing. She makes me think.
These words pierce me, “Jesus always moves into places moved with grief. Jesus always seeks out where the suffering is, and that’s where Jesus stays. The wound in His side proves that Jesus is always on the side of suffering, the wounded, the busted, the broken.”
I am reminded that as we endure suffering we can experience the greatest intimacy with our Maker. When we give ourselves permission to grieve and invite others to share with us in that space, there is communion. In the grief, there is healing. Grace abounds.
The Broken Way is the perfect sequel to One Thousand Gifts. Ann teaches us to go beyond counting gifts to being the gift to others. The acronym she uses is G.I.F.T. – Give It Forward Today. She dares us to let our brokenness be made into abundance. In her signature, turn of phrase, Ann proposes a challenge: “Maybe the only abundant way forward is always to give forward.”
I have experienced the truth of these words so profoundly over the last two years. I have learned the power of vulnerability. I have felt the healing balm of grieving with others. I have learned how to receive from community and give out of my brokenness. And I’m still learning.
In a world plagued by brokenness, this book is timely. The headlines scream about hurricanes in Haiti and human lives sacrificed in Syria, about shootings across our homeland and wars raging across the world. The Broken Way calls us out and calls us up. We don’t need bucket lists; We need to empty our own buckets again and again on behalf of others. Ann shows us that in that sacrifice we will experience abundant joy.
“Wounds can be openings to the beauty in us. And our weaknesses can be a container for God’s glory… God does great things through the greatly wounded. God sees the broken as the best and He sees the best in the broken and He called the wounded to be world changers.”
If you feel broken and bruised, if you are wondering whether there could possibly be a way forward through grief, if you are burdened by the suffering in our world, you must read The Broken Way. It may just be your path to the abundant life.
AND THE WINNER IS….
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Your review is so beautifully written Dorina. I am looking forward to reading Ann’s new book. I know I will be challenged to “empty my bucket for others rather then make my own bucket list”.
Dorina, your story is beautiful. Thank you for this review. Learning eucharisteo from Ann has made a huge difference in my life, my parenting and marriage. Looking forward to reading her next book.
Janna Olson says
Just reading your book review makes her theme come alive. And it rings true.
I can’t wait to finish One Thousand Gifts and read this one. Boy, you are right, you have to really think, breathe in, and digest her words.
Amber Blodgett says
I can’t wait to read this book! I have definitely got some brokenness that needs to be used for God’s glory.
You are both such inspiring women! Beautiful words Dorina. ?
Janet from FL says
I love Ann Voskamp, and have read several of her books. This new one looks really good. I admire your courage to talk with her and share your brokenness here. I would be grateful if I win this book. I am thankful that I read your review, which explains what the book is about so well. I am sorry that you and your daughters must now live without your husband and their father. It is a broken road, and you have started sharing it already. Thank you.
Sylvia Reyes says
Thanks for sharing your life story. Similar with mine, learning eucharisteo came just at the right time when I was feeling empty and abandoned, rejected and forgotten from a broken and hurtful relationship. That was timely that a friend posted a blog of Ann’s 1000 Gifts. I joined the daily gift journaling and a miracle happened by the second and third week. The process just changed my perspective of how God was working through my disappointments. My hurts transformed into blessing that has drawn me closer to communion with Jesus.